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Families of Elements

The Essentials


1 - Sx: Sex - Sex is what you think is sexy.

3 - P: Pleasure - What we all strive for, but acquire in different methods.

11 - Au: Authenticity - Authenticity is Golden. Being true to yourself and others' true feelings and conveying them clearly.

19 - Vu: Vulnerability - Being open to a place that might compromise yourself but could lead to great realizations.

37 - To: Touch - Could be the most important part of sex. Stronger is not necessarily better.

Sexual Identity

Sexual Identity

4 - Id: Sexual Identity - The sum of a few criteria that define your sexuality.

12 - Ge: Gender Identity - To which degree (if any) of a Gender does one relate to.

20 - Se: Bio-Sex - The sex assigned at birth. Male/Female/Intersex: which might not coincide with your Gender Identity.

38 - Atr: Attraction - What type(s) of Gender (if any) are you attracted to.

Gender Identity

Gender Identity

21 - Cs: Cisgender - A person whose Bio-Sex corresponds with their Gender Identity.

39 - Tr: Transgender - A person whose Bio-Sex does not correspond with their Gender Identity.

Sexual Orientation

Sexual Orientation

22 - Qr: Queer - An umbrella term for the LGBT community.

23 - Bi: Bisexual - Being attracted to both binary Genders.

24 - He: Heterosexual - Being attracted to the other Gender.

40 - Ac: Asexual - Being attracted to no Gender

41 - Pn: Pansexual - Being attracted to all Genders along the spectrum.

42 - Ho: Homosexual - Being attracted to your Gender.

Alternative Relationships

Alternative Relationships

25 - Or: Open Relationships - A relationship that allows external sexual contact. "Want to have sex? It's ok with my partner."

26 - Po: Polyamory - Having multiple relationships at once. "This is my husband, and this is my boyfriend."

43 - Sw: Swinging - A partnership that interacts sexually with others. "My wife & I enjoy having sex with the Johnsons".

44 - Ra: Relationship Anarchy - A fluid view of relationships. You can create or not create your own definitions for each one.

Kink & BDSM

Kink & BDSM

27 - Ki: Kink - A sexual desire that is not in the social norm (whatever that means).

28 - Ds: Dominance/submission - The act of consensually Dominating or submitting to another person's will (bDSm).

45 - Bd: Bondage/Discipline - The act of consensually restricting someone's movement / punishing someone (BDsm).

46 - Sm: Sado/Masochism - Enjoying the consensual act of inflicting or receiving pain and other extreme sensations (bdSM).

Sexual Aids

Sexual Aids

29 - Vb: Vibrator - Any toy that vibrates. There are things that only a machine can do.

30 - Lb: Lubricant - Underrated in importance. It's not just for anal sex, it's great for any sexual play!

47 - Ph: Dildo - Any phallic toy for insertion. Don't worry boys, it's your friend - it'll never replace you.

48 - St: Strap-On - A dildo that you can wear. Useful if you lack a penis or just want to use a different one.

Body Parts

Body Parts

5 - Bt: Anus - Ass. Butthole. Asshole. Arse. Cornhole. Hershey Road. Rear End. Backdoor. Last part over the fence.

6 - Ez: Erogenous zone - Body parts that bring us pleasure by physical or mental stimulation. Biggest one: brain.

13 - Tt: Breasts - Boobs. Tits. Breasts. Apples. Bazongas. Hooters. Funbags. Jugs. Baloons. Tamales.

14 - Vv: Vulva - What people usually call vagina but is actually just what can be seen from the outside.

31 - Ts: Testicles - Balls. Cherries. Cojones. Nuts. Family Jewels. Gonads. Rocks. Testes.

32 - Dk: Penis - Cock. Dick. Johnson. Pecker. Dong. Knob. Wang. Kielbasa. Mr Goodwrench. Prick. One-eyed Snake. 

49 - Pd: Menstruation - A natural part of the female period cycle. Doesn't inherently mean no sex, unless you don't want to.

50 - Vj: Vagina - Pussy. Box. Bush. Chocha. Vajayjay. Jelly Roll. Snatch. Cunt. Vag. VJ. Twat. 

Sexual Acts

Sexual Acts

7 - Cu: Cunnilingus - Oral sex on a vulva. Going down. 

8 - Os: Orgasm - O' yeah!

15 - Bj: Fellatio - Oral sex on a penis. Blow Job. BJ. Giving head. Going down.

16 - Ms: Masturbation - Having sex with someone you love.

33 - Fi: Fisting - Yup - whole hand, in there.

34 - Ks: Kissing - One of the best tools to find initial compatibility. It's not exclusively for your lips to enjoy.

51 - Pg: Pegging - A woman anally penetrating a man with a strap-on.

52 - Hj: Manual Stimulation - Hand Job. Digital Stimulation. Fingering.

Sexy State of Mind

Sexy State of Mind

2 - Co: Communication - Conveying messages clearly and openly and making sure they are received correctly by others.

9 - Fo: Foreplay - Starts with "Hello."

10 - Rs: Respect - The understanding that other people you're relating to have their own needs and wants. 

17 - Sf: Safer Sex - Methods for having sex designed to lower chances of spreading STIs and to prevent pregnancy.

18 - Sc: Security - An important notion that every person should have in life, especially when relating to sex.

35 - Va: Variation - We tend to fall into habits both in relationships and in bed. Change is valued in time.

36 - Cp: Compersion - Feeling pleasure in other people's pleasure.

53 - Pr: Persistence - Found something good - stick to it. Don't go stronger/faster/harder, just keep at it.

54 - Atn: Attention - Something that's important to give and receive from people that are precious to you.

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